Life Coaching Goals and Obstacles Model

life coaching behaviors beliefs model

At the iNLP Center, we teach student life coaches how to coach. And we try to keep it simple.

The above illustration is from a life coaching class. It demonstrates how to determine the client’s goal and obstacle, as well as suggestions for what those goals and obstacles are made of (beliefs and behaviors).

Most of all, the above chicken scratch represents a potential breakthrough in life coaching called Simple Coaching Blueprints. I just made this up, so let’s outline what it is.

Simple Coaching Blueprints

Simple Coaching Blueprints are protocols for life coaches to follow that make the process of coaching simpler to do. This is very handy for new life coaches who may need some training wheels to ease them into the process.

The blueprints, however, are both simple and sophisticated. Therefore, advanced coaches should find them useful and appealing as well.

Shall we illustrate one of these blueprints?

Believe >>> Do

The believe >>> do coaching blueprint assumes a few things:

  1. The client has a behavioral goal. Something they want to do that they currently aren’t doing.
  2. The client harbors a limiting belief that stands in the way of accomplishing the goal.
  3. Shifting the limiting belief will impact the client’s perceived ability to accomplish the goal in a positive and productive manner.

Here are some sample scenarios under which the believe >>> do protocol would work:

Believe >>> Do Life Coaching Examples

  • Goal: to do public speaking.
  • Limiting Belief: she has nothing valuable to offer
  • Shifting the belief to affirm the value she does offer should increase the chances of reaching the goal.
  • Goal: to lose weight.
  • Limiting Belief: losing weight is impossible.
  • Shifting the belief from impossible to possible should lead to productive behaviors.
  • Goal: to tell the truth and speak my mind
  • Limiting Belief: if I tell the truth, will be disowned
  • Shifting to believing that you can handle the consequences of speaking the truth should yield results.

The Believe >>> Do Life Coaching Blueprint

I. Establish Rapport

II. Client’s Goal

Get the client’s behavioral goal. This can be done as a direct request. What do you want to be able to do?

  • Give a speech
  • Pass a test
  • Eat breakfast
  • Exercise more
  • Socialize better

Remember, this is about what the client wants to do, not stop doing.

If I am successful, I will ____________________________________.

III. Discover the Limiting Belief

The best way to find the limiting belief is to ask the client to speculate about what stops her from doing what she wants (the goal). Let her talk. Keep the discussion going until you hear the limiting belief. Then, stop the discussion and let the client know what you found.

When you and the client agree that a specific limiting belief is preventing success, move on to the next step.

IV. Do something super cool (or a list of options).